Americans have always had a high regard for independence. We believe in a staunch individual ethic that leads people to step up, step out, and stand on their own two feet. We look up to those who are able to look after themselves, to take care of number one, to be responsible, to be independent. And we tend to look down on those who are dependent on others for their survival.
This is arguably the greatest virtue of our society, the aspiration of every child. Study hard, grow up, move out on your own, get a good job, so you can become self-sufficient, self-reliant, self-supporting. And bookstore shelves and YouTube videos labeled, “do-it-yourself” and “self-help” are filled with information to help us keep our independence. Anything else and you are considered to be a failure, worthless, no count, lazy, good-for-nothing. Yes, in our society, independence is what it is all about.
Many grocery stores now have “self-checkout” lines that are almost always available with no waiting. If you are smart enough to check your own groceries, if you have good ol’ American wherewithal and work ethic, if you are responsible and have learned to really be independent, if you have elevated yourself to a place where the assistance of a Wal-Mart cashier is truly beneath you, then you’ve earned the right not to wait in line.
Independence. It is what makes turning 16 and getting your driver’s license so wonderful, and it is what makes the day the doctor or your children take the car keys away from you so dreadful. It is what makes owning a home the American dream, and what makes the thought of moving into nursing home a nightmare.
Perhaps more than any other day, we fear the day we lose our independence. It’s the reason we save for retirement, eat right, take our vitamins and exercise; so we can remain independent to the bitter end.
This is why coming to church can sometimes be confusing, and oftentimes, challenging. We come to church and open our Bibles only to discover that God’s virtues are oftentimes very different from our own. We come to church to reaffirm our beliefs, only to have God call those beliefs into question.
On the very first pages of our Bible, we learn that the first thing that God said was “not good” was, guess what? Our independence.
God looked at the independent human and said: “This is not good.” So, “I will have to keep working. I will have to continue creating to make you a partner, a co-equal, someone on whom you can depend on help you be the person that I have created you to be.”
So, out of the ground, the Lord formed every animal of the field and every bird of the air.
And then the independent human searched high and low. They became acquainted with each creature so closely, that they were able to name each one. But out of all of the animals that they encountered, and out of all of the birds that they watched, they could not find a single suitable companion, a partner on whom they could depend, a co-equal with whom they could share a mutual relationship and an intimate communion.
But for God so love the world that did not give up. God was not finished. God was intent on helping the first human be the person he was created to be. So, God kept working. God continued creating. However, this time, not from the ground; but from the human themself.
As the human slept, God removed one of their ribs and used that rib to make another. Instead of forming another human being from the ground, God split the first human being into two beings, and then presented them to first human. It was then that they said:
“This, at last, is bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;”
This, at last, is the relationship for which have been searching.
This, at last, is the beloved communion for which I have been longing.
This, at last, is my partner, my companion, my confidant, my friend.
This, at last, is my equal with whom I can be mutually connected.
This, at last, is someone on whom I can depend.
This, at last, is what I have needed to be the person that God has created me to be.
This, at last, is one that I must love as myself, for…
“This, at last, is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.”
I believe this is why Jesus said the greatest commandment is to love others as we love ourselves. As this verse describes every human being. All of us, all genders, all races are co-equals, mutually connected and bound together.
This should describe the moment patriarchy died, the moment all misogyny and sexism, racism and bigotry, became implausible. However, we know all too well that this is not what happened.
The good news is that this is not the end of God’s creative story.
The good news is God was not finished with God’s new beloved community. God knew that an even greater communion was needed if we were ever going to be the persons that God has created us to be. So, God kept working. God continued creating. And, this time, God took it one step further.
God looked at God’s beloved community. God saw the good in it, but also the wicked in it. God saw the subjugation. God saw the sexual assault. God saw the domestic violence. God saw oppressors calling themselves liberators, and predators calling themselves “protectors.” God saw the hate, and the crowds cheering it on, supporting the hate, worshipping the hate, voting for the hate. And God knew that it could be so much better.
So, God, God’s holy self, selflessly and sacrificially, decided to join the community! God came to be with us, and God came to be one of us. God came to show us the way that leads to life, abundant and eternal. God became flesh. God became bone. And one of God’s beloved communities called him “Jesus.”
And one night, Jesus sat down at a table with his beloved community. Jesus took bread and broke it, and blessed it, saying, “This is my body.” Then he took the cup, saying, “This is my blood.”
And here we are this morning gathered at a table with Christians from all over the world, bound together, mutually connected, depending on one another and communing with one another, but also depending on, and communing with a Savior, singing together in one voice:
“This, at last is bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;”
This, at last, is the relationship for which we have been searching.
This, at last, is the beloved communion for which we have been longing.
This, at last, is our partner, our companion, our confidant, our sibling.
This, at last, is someone with whom we can be mutually and eternally connected.
This, at last, is someone on whom we can truly depend.
This, at last, is what we have always needed, all we will ever need, to be the persons that God has created us to be.
This, at last, is the One who reminds us that we are all interconnected by the love of our God who never gives up on us, who keeps working and keeps creating until the whole creation understands that there is neither Jew nor Gentile, slave nor free, male nor female, but we are all one in Christ Jesus our Lord.
One day, I was talking with someone who was dying with cancer. He shared that his illness had revealed to him the things that were truly important in life. He said, “And the funny thing is, that they are the opposite of what I always thought was important.”
He said: “I never knew how many friends I had, until I got sick. And I never realized just how important they are.” He said: “Jarrett, the truth is, ‘We really do need a little help from our friends.’”
He admitted that before his illness what he had valued more than anything in the world was his independence, “but no more,” he said, “no more.”
Then he said: “Maybe that is why God created us to depend on one another. It is like some kind of training.”
“Training?” I asked.
“Yes, training,” he said, “because the most important thing in this life is to reach a point where we learn to be dependent on God, to reach to a point sometime before we die, where we have truly put our lives into the hands of God.”
It was as if he was saying: “No more! Because, now I see it. Now, I get it. In my most vulnerable, most dependent state, now, I know it. This, at last, is what life is all about!”
This, at last, is why we are here: to learn be in relationships; to learn to depend on one another; to care for one another, especially for those who depend on our care: the poor, the marginalized, the immigrant, the isolated, the abandoned, and those have lost everything in the storm. We are here to learn how to move outside our echo chambers to listen and to learn from strangers. We are here to repent of our isolationist tendencies that place our desires and comforts over the good of the world. We are here to learn to resist the temptation to demonize our differences and while dignifying our diversity. We are here to understand that at last we are all related. We are all bound together. We are all equal. We are all united, because we are all one.
And as we depend on each other, we learn to depend on the One on whom we can depend on forevermore;
the One who came to us at last;
the One who came to be with us and for us;
the One who came to show us how to be the people God created us to be;
the One who is still not finished;
the One who is still creating and recreating, working to transform this world God loves by calling disciples, ministers and prophets, male and female and non-binary, in every country on every continent; We learn to depend on this One: This, at last, Christ, our sibling, our teacher, our Lord and our Savior, bone of our bones and flesh of our flesh.[i]
[i] Inspired from: This at Last!, An Intergenerational Liturgy for World Communion Sunday, Nineteenth Sunday of Pentecost year B, was written by the Rev. Dr. Laurel Koepf Taylor, Assistant Professor of Old Testament at Eden Theological Seminary, Saint Louis, Missouri.


